Why Are ‘Christian’ Women Watching ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’?

The unavoidable truth is that many are becoming desensitized. When the Holy Spirit no longer fills hearts and minds with a passion for purity and holiness, there is a general lack of conviction.

Compromise in this area can be well illustrated through a story that I heard years ago.

Eskimos in the barren North often kill wolves by taking a razor sharp knife and dipping it in blood. They allow the blood to freeze to the blade. Then they bury the handle of the knife in the snow with the blade exposed. As the wolf begins to lick the blade, his tongue becomes numb and desensitized due to the cold. As he continues, his tongue begins to bleed, and he licks even faster—unaware that he is consuming his own blood and slowly killing himself.

Within time, the Eskimos return and bring the dead animal home. In the same way, the enemy numbs us through compromise. Within time, we, like the wolves, don’t realize that we are dying—dying spiritually. The enemy desensitizes us until we are numb to the things of God.

A famous quote resounds with clarity for us today: “All the water in the world, no matter how hard it tries, can never sink a ship unless it gets inside. All the evil influence of the world, no matter how hard it tries, can never sink a Christian’s soul unless it gets inside.”

The greatest battle we will ever fight is within. Our mind is where the battle is either won or lost: “As a man thinks in his heart so is he” (Prov. 23:27). Galatians 5:17 says that the Spirit gives us desires that are opposite from what our sinful nature desires, and that these two forces are constantly fighting against each other.

As a result, our choices are rarely free from this conflict. Don’t be alarmed. The fact that there is a fight confirms the value of our commitment to Christ and His standard of holiness.

There is a very troubling trend toward moral compromise in the evangelical church. I’ve witnessed soft porn images on Christian websites, questionable movie clips during PowerPoint sermons, and youth pastors talk about their favorite sexually charged TV show or movie with the youth, all under the guise of “relating” to the culture.

Most walk away from Christ not because He fails them, or because the Word of God proves to be untrue, but because of the love of this world (gratifying the flesh). We cannot overlook the seriousness of this issue. Jesus said that the worries and desires of this world, along with the deceitfulness of wealth, come in and choke the Word of God, making it unfruitful (cf. Mark 4:19).

The passion we once had for the purity of God’s Word can easily be exchanged for the pollutants of the world. For this reason, I take every opportunity to write about making wise entertainment choices. What we put into our mind affects our relationship with God at a very deep level.

1 John 2:15-17 says, “Love not the world [the worlds mindset], neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.”

What we watch and listen to affects the heart—it’s impossible to separate the two. If we would make it our goal to know Christ more personally, we would preach Christ more powerfully. For example, if a pastor (or Christian leader) fills his mind with the world all week and expects the Spirit of God to speak boldly through him from the pulpit, he will be gravely mistaken. E.M. Bounds said, “The sermon cannot rise in its life-giving forces above the man. Dead men give out dead sermons, and dead sermons kill. Everything depends on the spiritual character of the preacher.”

Carnal Christians give God “His due” (a few hours on Sunday), but they forget His call to “come out from among them (the world) and be separate.” Every day of the week is the world influencing you? What does your mental media diet consist of? Who do you hang out with? What, and whom, do you listen to? Is your heart set toward the things of God or the world’s influence? A quick peruse of your “likes” and posts on Facebook reveals what we truly value.

Compromise also deceives. James 1:22 reminds us that if we listen to God’s Word without doing it that we are fooling ourselves … we are deceived. The power of God’s Word lies in the application. In addition to non-Christians, it is Christians who are moving sexually explicit and violent movies to the Top 10 by not applying purity to their lives. It is Christians who are addicted to porn and supplying the revenue to fuel the industry.

We cannot love both Christ and this world. Carnality destroys our relationship with Christ and genuine fellowship with other believers. It destroys our prayer life as well. A carnal Christian does not pray, really pray and seek the heart of God. A deep prayer life exposes facades and crushes hypocrisy. Carnality also destroys spiritual power and hinders the infilling of the Spirit. It also affects our home life. In short, everything that God calls us to be is compromised.

Being selective with what we watch and listen to has nothing to do with legalism; it has everything to do with wisdom. We are to recognize what glorifies Christ and what clearly does not then choose accordingly. Grace does not relieve us of responsibility. We actually live under a higher standard when grace guides our decisions, not rules. It’s not about following rules. Let your freedom in Christ, and a relationship with Him, guide you. We’ve all watched questionable material and have made wrong choices; don’t live with ongoing regret. But don’t justify wrong behavior by thinking that God doesn’t care about what you watch or listen to, He does. We serve and love God with our mind. (See Romans 7:25.)

Watch my sermon, “Are You Wheat or Tare?”

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Biblical truth for today #2 – The Sabbath

Mark 2:28 NLT

Then Jesus said to them, “The Sabbath was made to meet the needs of people, and not people to meet the requirements of the Sabbath.  So the Son of Man is Lord, even over the Sabbath!”



Some people get caught up in the religious practice and lose the true meaning. They are so into making sure to keep the practice at the cost of all things, that even to save another’s life, they would not lift a finger.



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Biblical truth for today #4 – Why you must endure many trials

1 Peter 1:6-7 NLT

So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you must endure many trials for a little while. These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold—though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.

This bible verse from the Book of Peter, answers a usually heartrending question, why. Trials are common to Christians and many through this suffering ask this simple but complex question. It is as if the answer would help us to make sense of our experience or help us to bear.

It does.

It will also prove who you are and prove whether you are faithful to God. How? If you are being tested to prove yourself to God, then if that matters to you, you will endure the testing. However, if you don’t care, you will forsake him.

Finding this verse gives me comfort and surity, being someone who has endured a great many trials, the answer to my whys, is a balm to my soul.

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Spiritual Warfare – Why I am not moved by 50 Shades of Grey

At the onset of my experience as a writer, I began by bleeding the hurt, despair and dejection of my soul out, and into the poems I wrote. Being a writer who flowed best when highly emotional, (and there was a period of my life when I always was) my poems highlighted the feelings I experienced and my words would emote and paint a picture fueled by my overactive imagination.

I am a child of Love (God) and I acknowledge that my gifts, just like anybody else’s can be used in the wrong way. I have written hundreds of love poems. So, I am no stranger to painting a picture so erotic with my words that men get heated and infatuated with the fictitious persona I create.

However, my purpose in God must be fulfilled and soon all my writings, thinking and living synced with the true purpose God has, for my gift. No one’s path is clear cut. Some of us have to experience life in a messed up and detoured way before our journey is corrected through acknowledging the sovereignty of God, his purpose on our lives and that really He knows best.

Therefore, because of my detours I understand the lure of ‘50 Shades of Grey‘ and even more so the deathlike grip it has on wayward Christians. It is not an easy one to shake; imagine a fly caught in the web of a giant spider. This lure is equipped to blind Christians of logical thought, identifying the truth and seeing the smut which is right in front of them. This lure is of a power so consuming only the devil could have spun this web.

Those trapped, especially women, are victims who have romanticised sadistic violence sugar coated by sensuality and covered with the most impure and sinful chocolate exterior. They need divine intervention to break the hypnotic hold.

Many of you have heard the excuses for watching this film from people you thought were secure Christians. Many of you are dismayed, shocked and disappointed. However, you need to pray and understand that this is simply a snare, that they are trapped, just like a prisoner of war.

We are living in a time when the devil is levelling some of his most devastating artillery against mankind:
50 Shades of Grey,
– Kim Kardashian’s frontal nudity on a magazine cover with the aim of breaking the internet,
– rampant gay sexual scenes on television,
– singers and actors flaunting nudity across every media,
– prevalence of narcissism through an addiction to selfies,
– Facebook and social media addiction
– music lyrics being a rant of psychotic and violent intended acts and harsh, accepted, abusive verbal discourse against women
– gay politicians demanding the sermons of preachers who preach against them
– legislation being fashioned and used to persecute Christians who do not support the gay lifestyle
– heads of martyred Christians literally rolling around the middle east, through epic acts of persecution
– Book Haram
– kidnapping of hundreds of young girls and nothing actually and successfully being done to free them
– a nation claiming a city of another nation
– megachurch leaders being caught in deception, adultery, accepting immorality in the pulpit
– church leaders dying, dying in the pulpit
– planes disappearing from the skies, never to be found

Should I continue to list the acts which mark the times in which we live?

If you are a child and servant of God, then your eyes should clearly see now, for what it is. I count myself as one of the lucky ones, not caught up in the 50 Shades of Grey deceit. God told me a few years ago that my play time was over. No more idling and floundering around.

I see things so clearly, but understand, the devil will continue to amp up his tactics and as the bible foretold, there will be such a falling away of Christians. It will be epic. But be encouraged, God will call His own to stand, to come home, to cut out the foolishness and end their playtime. He will draw out and up His remnant.

Notice, Isreal is calling home their people.

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Biblical truth for Today #3 – Man and Wife

So the lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

Genesis 2:21-25 NLT


No matter the argument, no matter the debate; from the foundation of the world, God has established a natural order. Anything else suggested, coerced or forcibly employed does not stand, is not right, is evil. It is against everything and how God dictated that it should be.

No matter the argument, no matter the debate: from the foundation of the world, God has established a natural order. Anything else suggested, coerced or forcibly employed does not stand, is not right, is evil. It is against everything and how God dictated that it should be.

Do not be deceived as many shall be in these times. Now is a time when we are seeing church leaders and whole congregations accept and support a lie. It is a pity they did not see that they were originally being lead by devils; wolves in sheeps’ clothing, posing as pastors and elders.

They were appointed for such a time as this, just as we are. However, where they are on the side in favor of our physical, spiritual and psychological demise; the side which has already lost, we are on the winning side. Stand fast. Stand firm. Do not bow. Do not renege your place in Christ. If it costs you your head, it will gain you an eternity with God.

Yeshua is God. Yeshua is King. Yeshua is I Am. No one can deny that and ALL will confirm and acknowledge that; if not now, in this life, then at the judgment seat. His will must be, it must be, it must be.

All hail to Christ, The Lamb, Our Saviour, Our God.


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The Faith Chronicles Part 5 – Favourites, preferring one child over another




Faith felt a volcanic rush of pain pass through her. She was not her mother’s favourite. Though she was the freehanded one, the one who gave without thinking, the one who pitched in and made sure the bills were paid, the one who ensured her mother didn’t starve.

She was not the favourite.

The user was. The addict was. The mange was.

Her brother, who never paid a bill, who never returned a loan. The one who never contributed, the one who never bought a furniture or appliance to put in his mother’s house. The one who when her mother starved for months never gave her food, though he managed one of the largest wholesales in Jamaica.

In the story of the Prodigal Son, it was the one who sinned, who left, who neglected the family; it was he who was embraced, kissed and a feast kept in his honour. So why did she think it would be different for her.

The pain made her illogical, hard and unforgiving; but somehow, God was seeping logic in the cracks of her rationality. God left obvious clues that he was watching out for Faith, even if no one else was. He loved her, she was sure. The Holy Spirit in her gave her solace, but sometimes, the pain would shut him out.

As tears fell from her eyes, Faith felt more alone on this earth than she ever felt. For years, Faith never truly forgave her mother for choosing favourites, but God required it of her now. It was locked away in her subconscious never on the surface, but somehow never far from her mind.

Faith closed her eyes and prayed, “Oh God forgive me, and help me to release those who should be forgiven.” There might be hope for her yet.

What else could wreak more of a devastation on a child?

Nothing, absolutely nothing.

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Biblical truth for Today #1 – Why did Jesus come to earth?

Mark 2:17, 27 NLT

When Jesus heard this, he told them, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do. I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are sinners.”




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The Faith Chronicles Part 4 – Denied, A brothers love

People deceive themselves more than they deceive others.

She stood with an empty heart and a disenchanted spirit as her brother stood in front of her and lied to himself, more than he lied to her.

Faith knew what a brothers love should be like, but it wasn’t this. She had been robbed, cheated and disinherited.

All her life she lived as if she was alone and her only defender was herself. No one to protect her, except God. No true experience of unconditional love from a sibling. This, she thinks, must add to the explanation of why she kept people truly at arms distance.

She had suffered twenty years of neglect, robbery, disinterest and feigned reunions. Faith looked through him and only saw a rotten corpse, a user, an addict. For five years she lived her ‘Job experience’ and she was forced to orbit the same galaxy as he; hell was almost welcomed compared to this.

Christ dictated she love this corpse, but she could barely stand his presence. Years of him misusing their relationship had left her jaded.

God required forgiveness, begrudgingly Faith gave it. But everyday it was required and in some miraculous turn of events, it grew easier. She just didn’t have any expectations. She felt peace for her effort but the effort was required daily.

Every chance he got, he took from her food, money, stuff…mostly money, mostly food. He never gave back. He never invested in her. Only on her death bed did he begrudgingly assist and then required payment only weeks later. He invested more effort in Mr. Lotto than he did anything else.

Faith remember one morning sharing with her mother of how she dreamed about silver, a lot of old Jamaican silver coin. Off he went to Mr. Cashpot and Mr. Lotto; winning thousands of dollars but none ever made it home to his family by disassociation.

A user.

A mange.

An addict.

Faith looked to the heavens and craved a miracle from God, “God I asked you to come into my heart, my mind, my being; it seems that you are cleaning house. Forgive me father and I forgive and release my brother as well.”

Faith never knew brotherly love, but she had intimate knowledge of Christ’s love for her.

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Poetess Denise N. Fyffe has worked as in Software Implementation for more than ten years and enjoys volunteering as a Counselor. She has transitioned to being a Jamaican blogger, ghostwriter, web content writer, internet writer, and researcher.