Handling Hurt In Your Christian Life

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The Good Shepherd 133

The Good Shepherd 133 (Photo credit: Waiting For The Word)

1 The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. 4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6 Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever…..

 

My walk with God now is different from 20 years ago. Today, I must consider myself battle weary because, I have fought the good fight and I am still on duty. Sometimes the idea of warring against hell and its minions is overwhelming; but when I remember ‘the battle is not yours, it’s the Lord’s‘ from Yolanda Adams, I am encouraged.

I took detours because those who were put to guide and help me along the way, turned their backs and became distracted themselves.

For years, I never went to the ‘dinning hall’ – The Church – to feast. I was discouraged, angry, bitter, depressed, impatient and honestly, unforgiving. But, God never left me, nor did He forsake me.

God was patient.

God was enduring.

God was a Father, friend, counselor, protector and still Sovereign Lord. The Lord God Almighty never deserts those who are backslidden, unless you shun Him, reject Him, blaspheme Him. Unless you totally give up your Christian Life.

Over the years, He worked on my heart. He worked on my anger. He worked on breaking my spirit, so that my only choice was to turn to Him and embrace Him. He taught me that people – Christians – are human beings first. They are flesh and have weaknesses; just like ordinary unsaved people. Therefore, they too will make mistakes, hurt people, be a disappointment and fall by the way side. But, so long as we do as Donnie McClurkin says, ‘..and get back up again…because we fall down, but we get up’ in our Christian Life.

Now, while I am still battling for my life, my mind, my spirit, my very soul; I am stronger, surer and trying my best to stay on the straight and narrow. Now, I am quick to forgive, quick to understand, quick to open my mouth to God and I am quick to identify my own weaknesses in my Christian Life. I am more mature, wiser and have more humility.

Remember, without God, as Christians we cannot survive. The devil seeks to devour us, prowling and looking for whom he may kill. So, church is important for fellowship and sustenance and I have learnt that God will move you to the best place or feast hall for you, in that time. So, if you lose heart in one church, ask of God how he can help you with handling changes in your Christian Life. The Bible says, ‘seek ye first the kingdom of God’, so seek God and His wisdom first, and he will guide you.

Copyright © 2016, Denise N. Fyffe

Christian Parents, Your Children Reflect Your Christian Life

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This morning I was meditating on parents and their responsibility for their children; with specific reference to Christian parents.

How your children behave around you, away from you, how they represent you is a direct reflection of how you are as an ‘active’ Christian; and especially when they are at a younger age. You cannot have a rude, insulting and disrespectful child, who does not regard authority and those older than he/she; and how do you respond? You smile and say they will grow out of it, or say ‘that’s how they stay’. That is not God‘s will for us and our children, so it shouldn’t be your will either. Practicing Christians of true Christian principles will instill this in their children, reprimand them, even publicly and lead by example. If you are a leader in your church and your home life is not up to par, the bible refers to this as well, it will show. “In essence you need to sort out yourself, before God sorts you.”

So, leaders you are set up high, seen from afar, and judged even more harshly. But it is also a way for others to see if you are hypocritical and not really practicing God’s principles, which you preach, in your own home.

God is never to be mocked, for all things are revealed in time.
By: Denise N. Fyffe.
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The Life Of The 21st Century Prophet: A Lesson In Gardening

A Lesson In Gardening by Denise Fyffe
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God is doing a new thing in me. Since June 2016, I have been filled with this intense desire to plant flowers and food crops. But each day I come away with spiritual analogies and references from the Holy Spirit. It wasn’t long before I realize that God was teaching me kingdom principles via a lesson in gardening.

What is even more amazing is that my finances are free enough to allow me to purchase tools, flowers, dirt, compost or plant food as I have a need. For those of you who follow my posts on on Revealing the Christian Life and The Island Journal, you know the devastating financial struggle I experienced over the last several years. But now, I am at a different level of faith and favor. Praise God.

I must say that I experience deep moments of surprise, fulfillment, joy, patience and sadness…because of my plants.

When they die, I am saddened.

When they thrive and bloom, I am happy.

When I open my door in the morning and see the lovely blooms, I am deeply at peace and content.

I thank God for this season. It is a season where I am on a writer’s vacation…from book writing. I still write my articles because practice is a must. But the same intensity, commitment and fulfillment that I get from my books, it is the same I get from this lesson in gardening.

It is even surprising when hidden memories surface from my childhood.

I will endeavor to share these nuggets as often as I can.

Be blessed, in Jesus name.

The Life of a 21st Century Prophet: God’s Servant’s Are Human Beings First

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The Letdown by Christians

One of the harshest lessons you will learn as a Christian, and even as a human being is disappointment. But more so the disappointment that comes with naively putting your expectations in Christians and by extension Christian leaders.

The Life of a 21st Century Prophet: God's Servant's Are Human Beings First

It is difficult not to do so though, because it is a natural reaction.

You meet people who speak of God’s will with such eloquence that you are utterly swept up. You embrace them without much reservation. They even seem to walk the talk. Nonetheless, as you get to know people and do life with them you will begin to see the curtain of pretense slip away.

What can be even more devastating, is when you approach that individual to discuss the matter, in love, and they shun you like a plague and are not repentant or open. Maybe even malice you.

I have seen this happen over and over again. I have experienced deep hurt and disappointment on too many occasions to count. It will happen with your pastors, choir directors, church friends, parents, relatives, work mates, leaders and your friends. The recurrence can send you in any of two directions; to God for answers and how to cope or to a place of contempt, bitterness and un-forgiveness.

These days, I run straight to my Source for answers. Yes, I am still at the stage where I withdraw like a wounded puppy to the most secure section of the shed.

That is instinct.

But also, I begin a process of constant forgiveness and checking in with God. I assess the levels of hurt that I am feeling and I sometimes, get into the ‘Why God?’ mode. How long I stay in this shed depends on how hurt I am.

Understanding

Then, my Father begins to talk to me and provide answers. Oftentimes, He would have shown me indications of what was coming or the flaws in people’s character from before. However, as with anyone, we ignore it and set up ourselves to be disappointed by having expectations of that person.

The Life of a 21st Century Prophet: God's Servant's Are Human Beings First

This ought not to be.

God’s servants are human beings first.

They are made of flesh and flesh is naturally sinful. Therefore, if a person has not given over completely to the Holy Spirit, then at times, if not frequently, they will ‘act up’.

The same is true for all of us as individuals, for the bible says:

 “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;” – Romans 3:23-26 (KJV)

Forgiveness

The first step towards moving on, is forgiveness. This can be extremely difficult to do. However, as you come into a closer relationship with God, it gets easier.

Forgiveness begins with acknowledging your own shortcomings. The main one possibly being not able to forgive immediately.

Secondly, you forgive and give the person over to Jesus Christ. Let Him be their judge. For many of us, we might have to repeat this process a few dozen…hundred or thousand times for it to take. No matter how many times is needed, do it until you are free.

Then, you pray for God to give you a spirit of Love. Love conquers all. God is Love.

If you submit your will to the Holy Spirit, then He will guide you through this process. He will give you the depth of Love to operate in.

All that’s needed now is for you to act in love. Do this for as many times as is needed, until it becomes a natural response.

Growth

In time, if you follow these steps, forgiveness will be an immediate response. If you find yourself regressing, do not despair. Just repeat the process of forgiveness and love for as many times as Christ gives you the grace to execute.

For those who ask, “So what happens if the person continues to behave in a way that is hurtful?”

Then, If it is the will of God, he will either move you or the person. You can also ask Him to, if it is His will.

I say this because, like Christ, we sometimes have to grin and bear it, until things change.

The Life of a 21st Century Prophet: God's Servant's Are Human Beings First

Prayer

For many of us, persecution and trials lead us into a deeper relationship with God, through prayer.

The bible says:

“Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7(KJV)

Oftentimes, hurt causes anger and in anger we tend to complain and vent. At times, when we complain to others, it might ‘color’ their relationship with the other person. Or cause them to start talking about the individual, in question, negatively to other people.

Excerpt From What does the Bible say about complaining?

Clearly, as believers we are challenged not to grumble or complain (Philippians 2:14-15; 1 Peter 4:9); rather, we are to love one another deeply so that we may become “blameless and pure” in God’s eyes. If we grumble and complain, it shows how worldly we still are (James 4:1-3). A complaining spirit leads to fighting and quarrelling because complaints come from unfulfilled desires, which lead to envy and strife. Was that not at the root of the problem with the sons of Israel, when they chose to dispose of their brother Joseph, because of his dream (Genesis 37:3)?

Jesus is always there to hear our problems and guide us. He wont spread negative aspirations on anyone. God knows how to keep your sessions with Him private. He even gives room for us to complain to him. This is one way to get the hurt out.

In this life, relationships with anyone is not easy. There will be disappointment, hurt, anger and even resentment. I pray that you and I will follow these steps and allow God to continue to perfect you, towards heaven.

Be blessed.

 

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The Life of a 21st Century Prophet: Introspection 

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Perfection is hard to attain when you have that one thorn in your flesh. By nature we humans are considered weak and willful. We blow with whichever wind passes by. That’s life.

But it doesn’t have to be that wat. What we cannot do of our own, we can call for help from the master. For some, opening the mouth is the hardest part. For others, vocalising a sound is even harder. Maybe the heart should make the call.

Introspection.

 

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How we blindly compromise our Christian beliefs in our daily Christian Life by Denise N. Fyffe

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I have come to accept that we are failing God in the simple everyday things, every day.  I am continuously noticing the areas where Christians are compromising on their beliefs. It is such a common and misplaced practice nowadays that if you dare speak against it, you would be made to feel as if you are in the wrong.

This is a season where many Christians are going to fall away and its a simple, yet intelligent tricks like these that the devil will use to cause us to ‘almost make it’ to the kingdom.

Now, let me explain what I am getting at.

You are a Christian, yet you do not find anything wrong with people overly indulging in alcohol, even when it seems like they just have a few drinks a day.

You are a Christian, but you are addicted to watching Game of Thrones, True Blood, 50 Shades of Gray, Scandal, Real Housewives etc. and missing bible study, YPE and prayer service.

You are a Christian, but you see nothing wrong with beating your child, to the extent that you bruise or cut them.

You are a Christian, your family, relatives or mother ain’t got no food to eat, but you don’t reach out to them to feed them.

You are a Christian, married, but you don’t see anything wrong with sustaining malice with your spouse when you have a disagreement. As a matter of fact, you supply justification for doing so.

You are a Christian, but you don’t see anything wrong with taking some office supplies.

You are a Christian, but you condone bad behaviour from your friends and give excuses for them that ‘ cho man, a so dem stay’.

The blood of Jesus is against ALL that. It is a lie and prominent deceit from hell.

The devil is a liar, a deceiver, a murderer, a covetous rebel who wants to take us into eternity with him when he is cast down into the pit of hell.

We need to wake up, rise up and begot some forgiveness for our deeds.

Every day we compromise our Christianity in some way, and this MUST not be. I say we because I am in there and I am working towards heaven like a fat kid running after an ice cream truck to get some chocolate dipped ice cream cone on a Sunday evening.

We need to wake up and stop compromising our Christianity. With Boko Haram and Isis on the prowl, we need to strive towards progress, if not perfection in Christ. We need to be a true example and not a fake.

The bible says:

Luke 10:27 ESV

And he answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.”

Romans 12:1-21 ESV

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.  …

Colossians 3:5 ESV

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

2 John 1:7-11 ESV

For many deceivers have gone out into the world, those who do not confess the coming of Jesus Christ in the flesh. Such a one is the deceiver and the antichrist. Watch yourselves, so that you may not lose what we have worked for, but may win a full reward. Everyone who goes on ahead and does not abide in the teaching of Christ, does not have God. Whoever abides in the teaching has both the Father and the Son. If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not receive him into your house or give him any greeting, for whoever greets him takes part in his wicked works.

Matthew 6:33 ESV

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

James 4:17 ESV 

So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.

 

 

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The Life of a 21st Century Prophet: Amused by The Plans of Baal

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I sit, watching, amused.

His lips kept forming words and I retreat inward as he spouted plans to change me.

Here is this young man, I am easily more than seven years his senior, wasting the vowels on his tongue; he is speaking about changing my idealistic views. I laugh, inwardly.

A scene of a giant and a mosquito plays out in my mind’s eye.

There are many people arrogantly parading on this earth, like peacocks. They ‘ think of themselves more highly than they ought’; there is a verse in Romans that warns against this. Because of where they live, how much they earn, where they work or simply where they see themselves in this life; these people think that they can fashion the lives, personalities, characteristics or moral compass of others.

Not even I being who I am in Christ Jesus and empowered by God, is that audacious.

I didn’t utter a verb, a sentence, a paragraph or a stanza in English, Spanish or French; not even in any of the heavenly languages.

I sat still.

I listened.

I smiled and later and many days later, I replayed this audacious and presumptuous conversation to God; or rather He to me. The Denise of old would probably have put him in his place; which would only fuel his arrogant machinations.

There were no declarations of war or any decrees against this young man. I knew the ‘spiritual puppet master’ behind his ramblings.

However, when the adversary shows you his hands, no matter how powerful and anointed you think you are, simply give it over to Jehovah Abba. Watch him scatter and confound the spirits and fleshly pawns of this world.

Until then, I’ll keep smiling.

 

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The Life of a 21st Century Prophet: Enduring the Isolation

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I am alone most of the time and I have not only come to accept this, but I now understand why.

It’s been five years since I have been sequestered in this spot. I can’t move, until God says go. Believe me, I tried. I ended up living beside a obeah woman, in a house given over to demons and another house, owned by Judas.

So you see, I gotta stay put!

During this time, I kicked, screamed, rebelled, went silent and eventually accepted my present dwelling. Eventually, God shifted out the family members who were with me, as they unknowingly and knowingly put me at risk of life threatening demonic attacks and much more.

Soon, I was truly alone, with the exception of when I went to work. I was a loner from day one, but in the last ten years everyone has been stripped away. No idle moments with friends; because when I indulged, I ended up doing some seriously profane things.

That’s a BIG NO NO for a Prophet in God’s training camp.

For this very reason were my friends, family and acquaintances removed, their influence on me. Mind you, I am not a sheep to men; but, everyone is influenced by spirits; good and bad. So no friends who liked to party, gossip, have sex, rejects God, steals, etc. could remain for long.

Many, of the few, who became good friends of mine, have been shuttled all across the world; London, China, USA, Australia.

*sigh

The only influence a servant of God should have, is Jesus Christ himself. This is for the purifying of the servant. You remember that story about the potter and the clay? It is all about serving the fire, alone, for most prophets.

I am not saying that all prophets will be alone for most of their lives. Nope, for I want a family, husband and kids. There are many prophets who also have this, but there are many more who can relate to the seasons of isolation that God brings.

Fortunately, God has revealed mine and so this helps me to be patient; to some extent.

So I encourage those of you out there who can relate.

Endure the fire.

Endure the purification.

Enjoy the bond that develops between you and God as a result.

God bless you.

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