Think on these things: Two by Two, Who has God placed in your life to complete you?

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“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work.”Ecclesiastes 4:9

Have you discovered yet that you are incomplete by yourself? During my “warrior” stage of life you would have been hard-pressed to convince me that I needed you or anyone else. I know few people willing to admit their need for others, but many who live according to this principle. However, sooner or later we discover God’s truth regarding our need for others.

God made us to need others. We may not discover this until we fail – fail in a business, a marriage, a close friendship, or in a client relationship. We are incomplete without the ongoing input from others into our lives. An independent spirit is one of the most detestable sins from God’s viewpoint. It is the highest form of pride. “Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice” (Prov. 13:10).

God has made each of us so that we have only so many gifts. He did not give any of us all the available gifts. Hence, we learn to depend on others and to humbly trust others to complete us where we are deficient.

David had Jonathan. Paul had Silas. John Wesley had George Whitefield. Martin Luther had Philip Melanchthon, who was 14 years younger. Martin Luther learned that he needed someone in his life to complete the work God called him to do. Luther had the greatest respect for this friend who helped him reform the Church of their day, and the Church as we know it at present. Luther learned a great deal from Melanchthon, who was a great scholar at a young age. He could speak several languages, and he became Professor of Greek at the new University of Wittenberg at 21 years of age. This was ten months after Luther posted his famous theses on the church door in Wittenberg. Melanchthon helped shape the Protestant movement of the sixteenth century through his research, writings, moral purpose, and religious conscience. Luther and Melanchthon became inseparable, and when they died, they were buried next to each other.

Who has God placed in your life to complete you? Perhaps it is a mate. Perhaps it is a close friend. Perhaps it is a business partner. If you lack this in your life, I encourage you to seek someone out who can speak into your life. If you have someone like this, tell him or her how much you appreciate the role he or she plays in your life.

Today God Is First (TGIF) devotional message, Copyright by Os Hillman, Marketplace Leaders.

 

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Love’s Story: I want to be your husband

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403846291555091452_81fiwvjg_f“I want to be your man.”

“I want to be your husband.”

She could feel her breath escape her nostrils in a flare. Her heart skipped a beat and the pores of her skin opened. She felt faint. Thank God she was lying down. Her fingers tingled, numb. All sensation disappeared.

Fear. The urge to run, kissed her lips and beckoned her to come in that second.’

Sigh.

“I want to be a better man for you,” he continued.

“I want to be with you. I don’t want to be far from you.”

The intended meaning sunk into her heart and her brain registered their intention. She could feel his hands in her’s, his cheek on her cheek, his breathe caressed the base of her temple.

Sigh.

‘God, I am a lucky woman’, she thought.

His love felt like exquisite chocolate caressing her esophagus. It was all she could do not to run to the hills, leaping with joy and fear simultaneously.

“Hey,” he said. “Did you hear me?”

She smiled. Words had deserted her like traitorous fiends. She drew his head to hers and held him, with every bone, muscle and flesh. They had stepped into forever.

…never letting go.

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Love’s Story

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He was her’s and she was his.

Love, that’s who he was; a reflection of Jesus Christ, demonstrating how his bride should be loved.

…and she loved him back.

Denise N. Fyffe

He was so unsuspecting. He snuck up on her, in a place, where she would not expect him to be.

Yet, he was everything she wanted.

No, he was not perfect, but he was the perfect man for her. He never judged her and he loved her to the nth degree.

He showed affection, continually.

He kissed her, lavishly.

He cooked, cleaned, gardened, cleaned the car and saw to her needs.

He even did those things that women secretly dreamed about. He made her breakfast, helped with her hair, he pampered her feet and he massaged her tired bones when she had a long, stressful day.

And he was all man.

He was her man. The one she prayed for. The one God told her, he was not done with; but she insisted, she needed him now.

He was her’s and she was his.

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Love’s Story: Let’s Pray

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The couple that prays together, keeps God in the midst. This is an important practice, especially for Christians. It helps to not only keep them united, but obedient to God.

Denise N. Fyffe

“B?” That’s his nickname for her ‘babe’.

“Yea,” She replied.

“It’s time for devotion,” he said.

“Ok, I’m coming.” She hurry to finish watering the garden. He hurries to finish packing her lunch and carefully tucks in the orange he peeled for her, in my lunch bag. 🙂

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Matthew 18:19 –  Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 – Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.

2 Chronicles 7:14 – If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

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The Faith Chronicles Part 5 – Favourites, preferring one child over another

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Hurt.

Anger.

Betrayal.

Faith felt a volcanic rush of pain pass through her. She was not her mother’s favourite. Though she was the freehanded one, the one who gave without thinking, the one who pitched in and made sure the bills were paid, the one who ensured her mother didn’t starve.

She was not the favourite.

The user was. The addict was. The mange was.

Her brother, who never paid a bill, who never returned a loan. The one who never contributed, the one who never bought a furniture or appliance to put in his mother’s house. The one who when her mother starved for months never gave her food, though he managed one of the largest wholesales in Jamaica.

In the story of the Prodigal Son, it was the one who sinned, who left, who neglected the family; it was he who was embraced, kissed and a feast kept in his honour. So why did she think it would be different for her.

The pain made her illogical, hard and unforgiving; but somehow, God was seeping logic in the cracks of her rationality. God left obvious clues that he was watching out for Faith, even if no one else was. He loved her, she was sure. The Holy Spirit in her gave her solace, but sometimes, the pain would shut him out.

As tears fell from her eyes, Faith felt more alone on this earth than she ever felt. For years, Faith never truly forgave her mother for choosing favourites, but God required it of her now. It was locked away in her subconscious never on the surface, but somehow never far from her mind.

Faith closed her eyes and prayed, “Oh God forgive me, and help me to release those who should be forgiven.” There might be hope for her yet.

What else could wreak more of a devastation on a child?

Nothing, absolutely nothing.

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Think on these things: The Idols of Marriage and Weddings

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We don’t really relate much to the concept of idolatry in America today. We think of people bowing down to statues and making animal or human sacrifices to wooden/stone/metal statues. Most of us are not remotely tempted to bow down to a ceramic figurine, pray to it, sing praise songs to it or have religious ceremonies trying to seek its favor. The very idea of worshipping a piece of wood, metal or stone seems laughable to most of us – and it is certainly not something we think about doing.

THERE IS IDOLATRY TODAY?

Idolatry is alive and well in our hearts today, too, though!  According to Wes Church, our Bible teacher on Sunday nights at First Baptist Church of Columbia, SC, we are created by God to be worshippers.  The question is not, “Will we worship something?”  but rather, “What/whom will we worship?”  Wes talked about that worship involves placing something/someone in the “place of preeminence” of our lives – the “glory place.”  And he also described that when we worship something, we make sacrifices for that thing/person in order to give them first place.  We give up our time, our money, our efforts, sometimes even our families, careers and health in order to worship that thing.

WHAT DO PEOPLE IN AMERICA WORSHIP OTHER THAN GOD?

We can put almost anything in God’s place in our hearts, sadly.  Wes said, “The human heart is an idol factory.”  We are always coming up with new dreams, schemes, plans and things to idolize and things that we easily slip into God’s special place of worship in our hearts.  And we can definitely have more than one idol at a time.

Some examples of idols people worship today include:

  • power
  • control
  • money
  • career
  • boyfriends
  • husbands
  • children
  • hobbies
  • health
  • beauty
  • weight/thinness
  • clothing
  • material things
  • false religions
  • friendships
  • approval of people
  • popularity
  • fame
  • travel
  • a beautiful house
  • a super nice car
  • jewelry
  • marriage
  • a college degree
  • the earth (environmentalism)
  • creation or created things
  • things that we make ourselves or that people make
  • movie stars/singers
  • drugs
  • alcohol
  • any addiction
  • comfort
  • a human ie: leader, president, boss, famous person
  • the media/computers/email/cell phones/technology
  • Star Wars…. ANYTHING!

None of these things are inherently evil.  Most of them are good things.  The issue is when we make these things the center of our lives, when we replace God with something like this.  God calls this the sin of idolatry – and it is an EXTREMELY big deal to God.

Peaceful Single Girl

We don’t really relate much to the concept of idolatry in America today.  We think of people bowing down to statues and making animal or human sacrifices to wooden/stone/metal statues.  Most of us are not remotely tempted to bow down to a ceramic figurine, pray to it, sing praise songs to it or have religious ceremonies trying to seek its favor.  The very idea of worshipping a piece of wood, metal or stone seems laughable to most of us – and it is certainly not something we think about doing.

THERE IS IDOLATRY TODAY?

Idolatry is alive and well in our hearts today, too, though!  According to Wes Church, our Bible teacher on Sunday nights at First Baptist Church of Columbia, SC, we are created by God to be worshippers.  The question is not, “Will we worship something?”  but rather, “What/whom will we worship?”  Wes talked about that worship involves placing something/someone…

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Think on these things: Making Idols out of Romantic Relationships, Guys, Engagement, Boyfriends, Husbands…

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We talked about what idolatry is in the last post. Now, lets cover some of the ways that idolatry plays out. I believe a lot of this begins in middle school, maybe even earlier. It is a progressive series of idols that girls tend to glorify, worship, obsess over and would do ANYTHING to have – give up time, money, self, identity, virginity, future, family relationships, other friendships, health, and almost anything else for the promise and allure of romance, love and feeling safe and cherished with a guy. Romance and having a committed relationship and marriage are WONDERFUL things. But we have to be so careful not to let these goals overtake God’s place in our heart.

Ultimately, we can only find true contentment in God’s Ultimate Love for us.

We sometimes think,

  • “If only I had a boyfriend!  I would be happy!  I would always feel loved and safe.  I would always feel wanted.  I want a boyfriend more than ANYTHING!”
  • “If only my boyfriend would propose to me, I would be so happy!  Being engaged would be the BEST thing ever!  Why won’t my boyfriend propose already?  I need to get him to ask me to marry him.  He’s taking way too long.  Maybe I’ll just ask him.”
  • “If only we could be married, I would be so happy and never be lonely or have any problems again!”
  • And then it just moves on to other things – having babies, buying a house, fixing up a house, having a vacation, having more money…

We are NEVER satisfied by all these idols – only Jesus can give us true fulfillment, joy and contentment!  These things aren’t bad things on their own.  In fact, they are good!  But when we try to put them in the God part of our hearts and worship them, glorify them, serve them, sacrifice everything for them – we are on a destructive path!

The problem is that all idol worship will eventually destroy the idol worshipper.

Idol worship eventually takes away our time, our money, our family relationships, our health and ultimately, our life.  There is a progression that can occur when we make anything an idol.  The following include some likely scenarios.  The extent of destruction will depend on a number of factors including the degree of commitment to the idol and the extent of the girl’s willingness to sacrifice everything to that particular idol over time.

MALE ATTENTION

When a girl makes getting the attention of men/guys her idol, she may:

  • dress immodestly to attract guys’ attention.
  • flaunt her body.
  • not want to give up the attention of a guy once she gets it.
  • be willing to give herself sexually in dangerous and ungodly situations to try to keep a guy’s attention – not realizing that being “easy” actually repels guys in the end and doesn’t make them bond to her.  So she gives up her precious virtue, virginity and chastity for a guy who cares NOTHING for her soul, her pain, the consequences of his actions on her, her safety, her well-being, her heart or the way her soul will be torn and broken because in her mind and her body – they were one flesh, and part of her will always be with him from that moment on.
  • give up godly friends to get more attention from guys who are willing to give her attention, even if it is in the wrong ways.
  • drop her relationship with God and any godly influences
  • suffer consequences from STDs and possible physical and sexual abuse at the hands of men who are attracted to what she advertises with her appearance and her use of her body.
  • be willing to do almost anything to look sexy  – including spending all of her time and money on clothing, makeup, hair, vanity, appearance, surgery, etc. (so she may also begin to worship the idol of beauty and appearance)
  • be willing to go farther and farther in order to get the male attention she craves – and if she goes far enough, she may end up involved as a stripper, in the pornography industry, prostitution or possibly become a victim of the sex slave industry. Even if she doesn’t get into the sex industry, she may be willing to give sex to so many men that her heart, spirit and body will be very wounded, broken and damaged. (Praise God, there is hope for everyone who is willing to turn from his/her sin and turn to Christ!)

Peaceful Single Girl

We talked about what idolatry is in the last post.  Now, lets cover some of the ways that idolatry plays out.  I believe a lot of this begins in middle school, maybe even earlier.  It is a progressive series of idols that girls tend to glorify, worship, obsess over and would do ANYTHING to have – give up time, money, self, identity, virginity, future, family relationships, other friendships, health, and almost anything else for the promise and allure of romance, love and feeling safe and cherished with a guy.  Romance and having a committed relationship and marriage are WONDERFUL things.  But we have to be so careful not to let these goals overtake God’s place in our heart.

Ultimately, we can only find true contentment in God’s Ultimate Love for us.

We sometimes think,

  • “If only I had a boyfriend!  I would be happy!  I would always feel loved and safe. …

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Why Don’t Husbands Help Their Wives More?

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I had never thought about the insight that her teenage sons verbalized to her this week. They said that for a man to help someone who has not asked for help is disrespectful. Hmmm… You may want to read that again. A man would take it as an insult if someone swooped in and took over and did something for him (kind of the way we moms tend to do!). BUT it is NOT disrespectful to help a man who asks for help. Nina’s sons said that men respect that other men know their limits and when another man asks for help, then it is respectful to help him. Wow.

That could explain a lot!

If I see another woman who is overwhelmed with work – I know that the loving thing to do is to roll up my sleeves and help her. That’s not an insult! That’s love! So maybe there is more to this love/respect dynamic that is causing miscommunication that we need to really examine.

WHAT ARE SOME OTHER REASONS THAT HUSBANDS DON’T HELP THEIR WIVES?